This one has been in the pipeline for a while, but the increase in these kind of videos has left me frustrated. Recovery IS about the food, but more importantly it is about everything else OTHER than the food.
Despite having the flu jab…I got the flu. From my ‘snotty sick pit,’ I learnt more about myself and my recovery journey than I expected.
I’ve noticed how much of our attention is diverted to external factors outside of ourselves. TV, Radio, google maps, department stores, internet shopping, social media, laptops and those pesky iPhones.
We have forgotten to pay attention to the natural world around us, which gives us so much inspiration without wanting anything in return.
Where does your focus drift to throughout the day?
Are the things you are paying attention to bring you joy?
Do you see the glass half empty or hall full?
Einstein said “Energy follows thought.” A simple statement, but whatever you are thinking about, whatever you are paying attention to, is where your valuable energy is going.
Separating HOW you pay attention from WHAT you pay attention is difficult, because they are intrinsically linked. But there is a direct connection between how you pay attention, and the quality of your life.
Try this simple exercise…Think of a particular flower in your garden or park. Do you know anything about it? What does it smell like? How old is it and what conditions does it like best? Now imagine it’s the only flower left in the world. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Almost immediately you think of the flower in a different light. You pay attention to it in a different way. If it was the only flower left in the world, it’s value and importance would jump enormously. The ordinary flower that you walked past mindlessly, suddenly becomes a precious treasure. The flower has not changed, but your perception of it has.
What I’m saying is that we have come to place so much value on things that don’t feed our souls. Our busy lives have led us to neglect paying attention to what really matters. We have become aliens.
My recovery from an eating disorder was very much about paying attention to what really made me tick from the inside. Seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary. Not taking people and places and nature for granted.
Changing how I pay attention, and what I pay attention to, helps me to deepen the quality of my life.
Some people are in our lives for a long time, whilst others are merely a moment in time. I have learnt that this is irrelevant. We all have the ability to leave our mark on others, as I unexpectedly found out last weekend.
Christmas can be an incredibly difficult time for many of us. If you are struggling with a mental health issue, then the holidays can fill you with dread. My biggest tool I have learnt is to not suffer in silence. People can’t help you if they don’t know how. Guide them and be honest about what you need to get through each day.
‘Jiggsaw Reflection Series 012’
This sound familiar…
When I have £££ in my account, I’ll be happy.
When I met him or her, I’ll be happy.
When I move there, I’ll be happy.
When he or she says they love me, I’ll be happy.
When I get that job, I’ll be happy.
Many of us are increasingly looking to the outside to make ourselves happy. We are waiting and wishing, for someone or something to make us ‘happy.’
The problem with this, is that it’s incredibly disabling. You are reliant on someone or something that’s not in your control. This generates anxiety, panic, frustration and resentment.
If you choose to, you can find happiness right in front of you. In the people around you, and in mundaneness of life…the mundaneness that you see as boring or dull. It’s your thinking that’s holding you back.
Most of us disregard the things in life that cost nothing. Pay attention to your thoughts. Appreciate the rain on the window when you are warm inside. The grass between your toes. Clean sheets, hot bath, home-cooked food, or my favourite…a hug from someone you love.
Happiness does not happen when you’ve ticked off your list of achievements. It happens when you start to notice everything that you already have.
It’s far more empowering to stop fighting with the world and yourself. Perhaps the world doesn’t need to be different for you to be happy, maybe you need to change your approach to it?
I’m not suggesting that you don’t strive to improve yourself or your environment, but when you quit wishing for your life to be different, you actually start to live your life. It makes room to be open and aware of the opportunities that are available to you.
Remember, happiness is not the end goal. Your happiness is not created by anyone other than yourself. It’s everything that happens along the way, whilst you are navigating this crazy world. Don’t miss it while searching for ‘stuff’ that really has very little meaning.”