‘Jiggsaw Reflection Series 012’
This sound familiar…
When I have £££ in my account, I’ll be happy.
When I met him or her, I’ll be happy.
When I move there, I’ll be happy.
When he or she says they love me, I’ll be happy.
When I get that job, I’ll be happy.
Many of us are increasingly looking to the outside to make ourselves happy. We are waiting and wishing, for someone or something to make us ‘happy.’
The problem with this, is that it’s incredibly disabling. You are reliant on someone or something that’s not in your control. This generates anxiety, panic, frustration and resentment.
If you choose to, you can find happiness right in front of you. In the people around you, and in mundaneness of life…the mundaneness that you see as boring or dull. It’s your thinking that’s holding you back.
Most of us disregard the things in life that cost nothing. Pay attention to your thoughts. Appreciate the rain on the window when you are warm inside. The grass between your toes. Clean sheets, hot bath, home-cooked food, or my favourite…a hug from someone you love.
Happiness does not happen when you’ve ticked off your list of achievements. It happens when you start to notice everything that you already have.
It’s far more empowering to stop fighting with the world and yourself. Perhaps the world doesn’t need to be different for you to be happy, maybe you need to change your approach to it?
I’m not suggesting that you don’t strive to improve yourself or your environment, but when you quit wishing for your life to be different, you actually start to live your life. It makes room to be open and aware of the opportunities that are available to you.
Remember, happiness is not the end goal. Your happiness is not created by anyone other than yourself. It’s everything that happens along the way, whilst you are navigating this crazy world. Don’t miss it while searching for ‘stuff’ that really has very little meaning.”
Ever felt like you are just wandering? Life is passing you by; Different Day, Same Story.
Life can be mundane. It can be frustrating and it can feel…boring. A slog with no end in sight.
But it’s important to remember that THIS is EXACTLY where you are meant to be right now.
In a world of constant comparison, it’s easy to feel like you are left behind. It’s hard to stay on your own track, and it’s tempting to look for avenues of escapism.
The thing is, and I hate to break it to you…but life can be boring. It can feel like a repetitive cycle of, get up, go to work, get home, eat and sleep.
When you are grinding without an end in sight, it’s no wonder you look to make changes. Dye your hair, quit your job, blow some cash, ditch the girlfriend/boyfriend, book a one-way ticket.
These may work as some sort of ‘fix’ but they are only short-term. Just as my eating disorder was. Despite it going on for 11years, it never did what it ‘promised.’
It definitely distracted me from life,
(It almost took my life) feelings, pain, but it actually was nothing but repetitive torture.
I guess my point is…you might not be in the midst of a life-threatening mental health issue, but at times we all feel ‘stuck.’
These moments pass. They are teaching you something. You might not know what that is right now, but don’t do anything drastic before the magic happens.
It’s those who can ride out the tough times, without doing something radical, who go on to become rich human beings.
Social media is a strange place at times. We compare ourselves to people we have, and will never meet, which is why I feel so passionately about who we choose as a role model. Surround yourself with those who add value to your life, without needing some sort of validation in return. You get to choose your heroes…choose wisely.
Sunday night/Monday morning blues is real. Many of us suffer with anxiety about the week ahead, before it’s even begun. I did, and still struggle with this, so what can you do to ease that dread?
It may be ‘World Mental Health Day,’ but our mental health deserves attention everyday. I’ve learnt that if you neglect your basic needs, then you can end up in a dark place. Look out for yourself and others EVERY day.
What happened to the real you? The one that existed before you created an online version of yourself. Recovery has taught me to accept the ‘me’ that exists in real life. She is a whole lot happier than the one she pretended to be when she was ill.