‘Jiggsaw Reflection Series 012’
This sound familiar…
When I have £££ in my account, I’ll be happy.
When I met him or her, I’ll be happy.
When I move there, I’ll be happy.
When he or she says they love me, I’ll be happy.
When I get that job, I’ll be happy.
Many of us are increasingly looking to the outside to make ourselves happy. We are waiting and wishing, for someone or something to make us ‘happy.’
The problem with this, is that it’s incredibly disabling. You are reliant on someone or something that’s not in your control. This generates anxiety, panic, frustration and resentment.
If you choose to, you can find happiness right in front of you. In the people around you, and in mundaneness of life…the mundaneness that you see as boring or dull. It’s your thinking that’s holding you back.
Most of us disregard the things in life that cost nothing. Pay attention to your thoughts. Appreciate the rain on the window when you are warm inside. The grass between your toes. Clean sheets, hot bath, home-cooked food, or my favourite…a hug from someone you love.
Happiness does not happen when you’ve ticked off your list of achievements. It happens when you start to notice everything that you already have.
It’s far more empowering to stop fighting with the world and yourself. Perhaps the world doesn’t need to be different for you to be happy, maybe you need to change your approach to it?
I’m not suggesting that you don’t strive to improve yourself or your environment, but when you quit wishing for your life to be different, you actually start to live your life. It makes room to be open and aware of the opportunities that are available to you.
Remember, happiness is not the end goal. Your happiness is not created by anyone other than yourself. It’s everything that happens along the way, whilst you are navigating this crazy world. Don’t miss it while searching for ‘stuff’ that really has very little meaning.”